The Bestest Present

[xifeng]

Everything that could go wrong last week did (the short summary: I broke the showerhead on Monday; I tried to make candy and wound up burning the almond bark and had to get more; I ran all over God's green acre and have no money and then on top of that I did not get my paycheck on Friday and so I couldn't get my car out of the shop because without that money I can't pay for the deductible). But it's the weekend now, and X-chan has just arrived from Parts Unknown and is currently sleeping off her jet lag, and none of the other shit matters anymore.

H sent me flowers, which arrived today quite unexpectedly (I had already gone to the post office to pick up the other things he sent me, which I had to sign for, and am now richer by 2000 yen).

Nobody, in all my life, has ever, ever sent me flowers before.

I love flowers.

It is harder than you might think to find the words to tell someone that he is, easily, the most wonderful person you have ever met in your entire life, especially when your standard expressions of love/affection tend to sound like, "Yo, dethorats! I'm going to skewer you alive and then put fire ants up your nose!" or "Goddammit, imperfectkatoru, I'm going to kick your ass." I've spent almost four hours trying to figure it out, which isn't working, and I think the thing to do may be to come out and say it.

In conclusion, YAY.

Comments

[imperfectkatoru.livejournal.com]

Woo.

[shake-the-stars.livejournal.com]

a.) Is that sarcasm? I can never tell with you. XD
b.) Goddammit, Fred, don't make me get on AIM and kick your ass. :D

[imperfectkatoru.livejournal.com]

More like have a merry Christmas and kick my ass. ^^

[shake-the-stars.livejournal.com]

Awesome. :D

[tara]

I say run with the direct version... and then tell him you're going to put fire ants up his nose *g*

[shake-the-stars.livejournal.com]

I figured I'd wait on the fire ants until I'm more firmly entrenched *g*

[forgottensanity.livejournal.com]

I'm bad at telling people how I feel. Usually I make them stuff and hope that they'll figure it out on their own. Or I cleverly work it into a sentence in a disguised kind of way, like in the signature at the end. I try to tell Denby directly, though, although it was veeeeery difficult in the beginning because I do not come from a tactile family at all. We do not use the L-word in our family. And on top of that, Danes in general don't use the L-word either. It's kind of odd, really. You're watching a film and there is this really mushy scene where Person A tells Person B that he/she loves him/her. The Danish translation is then "I really care about you". The meaning is basically the same, but we do have a direct translation of the L-word, it's just seldom used. I find it odd, but I guess Danes just generally have problems expressing themselves that way and when we do, it is a very limited circle that gets to hear it. It does seem a bit to me as though some English speaking people use the word frivolously, which is a bit of shame because then it loses some of its meaning when you really mean it.

Anyway. That was a bit of a tangent there. I don't think you need to tell him. I think that he already knows. However, if you do tell him - just once - very bluntly and then quickly change the subject, then it will mean a great deal to him because I am certain that he knows that it was difficult for you to say it.

Also, I love flowers, too.

[shake-the-stars.livejournal.com]

My mother's people are tactile, but my father's people aren't, and I take after my father's family in terms of personality and temperament. I'm not a hugger the way Mom's people are, and whenever I'm around my mother's family, I'm always reminded of how much like my father I really am. It's not that I feel less welcome or less accepted, but there's a vast difference between these quiet, well-behaved, fairly mild-mannered people and me.

I didn't know that about the Danish L-word, but it actually does kind of make sense. I use the L-word in English to mean other kinds of love besides romantic love, because for me the relationships I've had with my friends and my family have historically been the ties that bind and in terms of the people who have shaped me they tend to be more valid than my romantic relationships. But yeah, some people do overuse it.

I sort of barfed it all out in an e-mail. You know me; Lees really put the B into subtle. ^_-

[dethorats]

Dude, fire ants up the nose is totally metal. Ozzy and Motley Crue totally had ant snorting contests back in the 80s. SO THANK YOU Mon Frere for this great affection!

In other news, the karmic balance here is also at an interesting crux. Or that could just be sleep deprivation talking. Anyways, YAY FLOWERS, and I am so totally going to submit you to Chinese water torture and then have you drawn and quartered by rabid hyenas.

[shake-the-stars.livejournal.com]

Didn't Ozzy get busted for snorting fire ants? Right around the time he peed on the Alamo? XD

I suspect it probably is sleep deprivation, knowing you, but the karmic balance has swung back the other way as my life sucks at the moment. (Is it sad that part of me kind of hopes I get fired? It would suck, but would also be totally pimp at the same time, at least for a couple of days. XD)

Awww, thanks for the rabid hyenas! They show you care!

To the stocks with you, where you may be mocked and pelted with filth by midgets in funny costumes. XD